Relax, just date

Last weekend I had the chance to take a nice long walk with a dear friend of mine. Sure, we talked about lots of things during that two-hour walk, but what I've been thinking ever since was the dating and love part of the conversation.

You see, we both are single and looking. We both have been dating guys, yet neither one of us has managed to kick that 'single' - part out of our romantic status. But there is one huge difference between us: she wants to find someone badly, I just date and relax.

I'm not trying to assure you that suddenly, since my last post, I would have found some sort of Rosetta Stone of dating, because I haven't. I just understood that the words I said to my friend are true: I've stopped worrying about it.

It's sort of funny, actually. When I was 25, I was way more worried about finding Mr Right that what I am today. Maybe that certainty comes with knowing myself better... or something. Or, perhaps, knowing one great new guy makes all the difference... Or simply hope and faith in the future do. I don't know, you tell me.

But I have learned that great expectations or pressure are one sure way to wreck any date. So, I put on my make up, put on my dating clothes, put on a genuine smile and go to meet someone with open mind and open heart and see if we have something to build on. You'll never know.

People rarely are just what they say to be on a piece of paper; they are better or worse; you either get along or you don't - only meeting face-to-face will reveal that. After all, come chaps know their way with words online, but others make your heart sing on a date. Picture tells a story about one moment, a date shows you the real thing, the real person, who can be something different (i.e. even better!).

Chemistry is a weird thing. It either is there or it's not. You can't fake it, charm it, pribe it... either you get along like house on fire or you don't. It gets lonely, if only one of you is talking... And sometimes it's hard to tell if the date is going great or not. I once had a great time with one guy, but at the end of it he bluntly said that I wasn't what he was looking for, which was kind of odd, because on the paper I was presicely what he was looking for and the conversation had been wonderful. But, like I said, chemistry is a odd thing.

Still... I'm happier than I've been in a long time. Aguess Spring Time has reached my heart.