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I had a wonderful weekend at my boyfriend's.

We spend most of our weekends together and to be honest, we have a wonderful time no matter where we are and what we do. We've been together for nearly 9 months now and our relationship feels better and better.

What can I say? I feel grateful that I've met him. I feel fourtunate that I was ready for love and when I found it in him, I was not scared to embrace it. Like I've written before, I'm a different woman now and I like it. I'm also 100 per cent certain that I would not be the person I am without him and the lessons I've learned from him and being with him.

I read today articles about love and relationships. I read that the kind of love, which is behind successful relationships is mixture of love, friendship, passion, compassion, understanding and sacrifice. I know what it means... It's the same thing than "do you want to be right - or happy?".

Everyone needs to make a compromise every now and then. Sometimes one needs to forget ones own strict opinions and open for partner's thoughts, needs, hopes, dreams and likes. Naturally, one must not make compromises on ones own values and identity. I plan to be who I am - and let him be him.

My mother comes from the generation, who believes that woman can and should change her man. I don't agree with that. I belive in couples doing together decisions about their lifes together, but supporting each other with the things they do separetly. When I talked about applying a job in Canada, my boyfriend said there and then that I should. Without hesitation, without weird comments or remarks. Real, plain support. That' s the way it should be, with every couple, about everything. You're a team, right?

People have asked me about marriage. We've heard comments about it. But do I feel there pressure about it? I can honestly say that I don't. I do want to get married, but I also believe in things taking place in their own time. We haven't been together even for a year... But if someone asked me, I'd say that he's the kind of man I'd marry. No question about it.

When I saw peoples comments about love and relationships, some of them made me grin. I don't have to question, whether he loves me or my love for him; I don't feel the need to question if we have a future together - I know we do. I do not feel the pressure, because I'm enjoying every day, every week, every month. And you know what? I love him more now than I did on the day I first said "I love you" to him.