Babies, Houses & Friends

You know that you're getting closer and closer to 3-0, when your friend begin to actually talking about buying houses, babies and child-care. You know, instead of graduating, getting a job and shopping...

But time must go on.

Still, when my Girls Club gathered last Saturday and the topics above were discussed about, it was bit surpricing. Sure, 3 out of 5 are in a relationship, one works in a kindergarten and one's family just moved, so no wonder. But honestly, I expected to see this "change to tune" about in 4 years time and not quite yet.

Now, I belong to the "in relationship"- part of our little group. Tomorrow we're celebrating our anniversary - we met a year ago and we've been together since that night. I've come to know during this year that I've found the man I want to share my life with. We have talked about moving in together and we've talked about our future plans in some part. The things we haven't talked about are issues which belong to the "time is not right"- section.

I know that in many ways I'm this considering woman, who doesn't jump into big decisions just like that. I know where I stand on both big issues (that of marriage and children, that is) and right now I'm happy where I am. I'm looking forward to living the man I love in future and getting to know him better and better. I'm not in any hurry getting further. The hurry I used to feel vanished when I met him.

I do admit that I understand people who date just a while, marry and start a family there and then. But I'm yet to finish my Masters and I kind of want to have a job before that myself. I don't have a "timetable", which some people do. I just recall my two childhood wishes: to be married before I'm 30 and a mum before I reach the age my mum had me. Yet I know that although life helps those who help themselves, it also has a habit to alter peoples' plans just like that.

That is one of the reasons why I have been slighly surpriced, amused and now also annoyed when people have come to me and asked me about when I'm going to have a baby. It's been odd, because I'm not there yet and we haven't talked about it. As far as I know, we're on the same page about it - we both want to have children "someday in future". It's interesting that I need to reply to that question this day and age, when people are more aware than ever that not all people who want to have a baby will get one just like that. Although there are plenty of people who are keen to have children without getting engaged or married, that does not mean that I would be thinking that way, too. And that just because a 26-year-old is in relationship, she would be trying to get pregnant.

I am thrilled that Steph & DJ from ch.com are expecting a baby. I couldn't be happier for them and I will share that joy they have as on-board "auntie" with pleasure. And I hope that my dear friend's sister will get that baby she and her husband are hoping for. It's been a blessing in my life that I've been able to see my boyfriend's nephew and godson grow. And I love to admire pics of kids at ch.com. But I'm not applying a passport to Babyville just yet.

But it will be very interesting indeed to see what the future brings to me and my Girl Clubbers. Who knows where we all are in five years' time. It could be that there are more than one married mum among us then, living in a pretty flat, appartment or house. Who knows? I'm very bad at quessing. Life is so much better in creating all sort of twists and turns than I am, that is for sure.

Who would have quessed that after my friend broke up she would find a man she "doesn't want to let go" nicely afterwards? I'm yet to meet that special man, but I sure hope that he is the kind of man who can make her happy in all levels. She's deserved a wonderful man.
What comes to other friend, I hope that she and her long-time boyfriend can find a place to live; it's not always that simple. I hope that their future looks bright.
To the other two I wish that whatever they wish for, will come to them. Whether it is work, lovedones, exciting opportunities, I hope they'll embrace it.

What comes to my very own future, it looks bright and hopeful. I'm not least of bit scared of what will happen, either. What will happen, will happen. I know that whatever it will be, I'll survive.