Love and loving

It has been often said that falling in love makes us blind. Well, if that is true, then loving opens our eyes to see.

And to see not only one's partner like they truly are, but also oneself. Back when I was single, I used to grin at the joke which said: "Men help us solve problems which we didn't have without them". Well, I'm not grinning at it anymore. Because, in a way, it is true.

When we fall in love and begin a new relationship, we allow another person to look at us very closely from very close. So you're easily hurt when you're that close. And it's easy to hurt when you're that close to someone. Even without knowing that one's hurting.

Falling in love can bring out all one's insecurities into the surface. It can be scary, but also liberating. I read once, that we pick partners, who help us grow into persons we're supposed to become. Our partners bring out the best and worst in us. And yet, they're there for us through it all. Falling in love is easy, loving is hard.

We fall in love in seconds, but loving is rest of your life. I belive that we don't choose to fall in love nor the person we fall in love with, but we can choose to love. You see, I believe that one part of commitment is that you choose to commit. There will always be difference of opinion, disagreements, mixed plans, different ideals and dreams. You'll never know what kind of things life throws at you and it's so much easier to deal with things when you're reminded, even in the hard parts, that you chose to love.

This time last year I had no idea that I'd meet someone so wonderful. I was hoping that I would, though. And during these months we've been together, he's become important part of my life.

Still I know that he doesn't need me and I don't need him. We've both lived happily without each other for a long, long time. But we chose to be together. And I want him to be part of my life. Now, some might say, that the difference between needing and wanting in this context is thin red line. Perhaps it is, but it makes all the difference. I am happy and complite without him, but having him in my life makes it all much, much better. And life worth its while.